Life is beyond my understanding......

1 simple question has always baffled me...... Do we steer our life through our actions or does life steer us...?

Half my life already gone.. I have now started to believe in the latter... I know what the wise men say... 'Take control of life and make it the way u want it', and truly i believed in it too may years of my life.. probably because what I did and thought actually reflected in the way my life moved.But then there have been so many times, we all have not got what we wanted/wished for, even though we have worked really really hard towards it, and there have been times too when we got more than we expected too.. and exclaimed 'Gosh am I lucky!', and then I felt that my former belief was more of a coincidence..

Only makes me believe very certainly that a Superpower is controlling everything, and then I wonder how my actions are justified..
I can act any which way.. what is bound to happen will anyways !